In friendship, venting has become commonplace. In addition to pouring out things, venting is also important to strengthen your friendship. However, being a vent friend from a spoiled person is very tiring, you know.
Not just venting, spoiled people tend to like to bother you. Especially when he feels there is a problem and intends to tell you. Still not sure if your friend is really spoiled or are you impatient to listen to his stories?
Don’t beat yourself up before you follow the reviews below. The speech of a spoiled person has its characteristics, really. Pay attention and be prepared to be more strict with him.
1. No matter the place, time, and atmosphere when venting
vent illustration (pexels.com/Ketut Subiyanto)Whether you are very busy or in a hurry, he forces you to listen to his stories. Even though you said you had to leave immediately and give him another time to vent, he still told you what he wanted to tell you.
Like the flow of water, the vent can’t be dammed. If you act indifferent and completely leave him, he will be angry and think you are evil. In fact, he was the one who didn’t care about your needs at that time.
2. The slightest problem is told and exaggerated
vent illustration (pexels.com/Pavel Danilyuk)For adults, vent only contains problems that are heavy and difficult to overcome alone. However, for people who are spoiled, no matter how trivial the problem is, it needs to be poured out on other people.
What bores you the most, is that small problems are exaggerated until they seem very complicated. At this rate, any problem will seem difficult to solve. Every time you try to make it simpler, he says, “it’s not that easy”.
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3. He has a problem, you are the one who must find a solution
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vent illustration (pexels.com/Jeff Vinluan)People who vent usually really need input in addition to being heard. However, asking for advice is definitely not the same as urging you to find a solution.
Of course that is the same as giving up his own responsibility for a problem. Later, if your solution doesn’t go smoothly, he will chase your responsibility. Tired of!
4. Always want to be defended, don’t want to be criticized
vent illustration (pexels.com/Mikhail Nilov)His venting style is like he is looking for allies. Whether he is right or wrong, you have to be on his side. If the slightest look does not defend him, he will be angry and judge you to be unfaithful friend.
In fact, true criticism is also important as material for introspection. However, he views your criticism as an attack on his personality and even a betrayal of your friendship. Lazy, right?
5. Not being able to try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes
vent illustration (pexels.com/Arina Krasnikova)For example, when he talks about his partner. He badmouths his partner and judges him to be incapable of being patient. In fact, anyone must also run out of patience when it comes to dealing with his unusually spoiled attitude.
Moreover, his partner is tired and has a lot on his mind. He certainly hopes that your friend can make him feel calmer, not even acting cocky which makes him even more tired.
Showing firmness to this spoiled friend really needs to be accompanied by an emphasis that you love him as a friend. You want to see him become a more mature person because that would be good for him. With your assistance, hopefully he can change.
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