5 Safe Tips During PDKT, So You Don’t Choose the Wrong Partner

Before making love with someone we will go through a phase called PDKT. It is in this phase that we enter the exploration stage to get to know more about the person who will be our partner. But sometimes, crush actually shows red flag which requires us to just end the relationship.

red flag This can be seen since you are PDKT, you know. Well, if you don’t want to choose the wrong partner, you have to start to understand red flag whatever he shows to be safe during PDKT. What are some safe tips during PDKT with your crush? Check out a series of tips below!

1. Stop thinking about changing his bad character

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As an ordinary human being, one must be born with advantages and disadvantages. Weaknesses can take many forms. One of the things that can be dangerous is bad character. Bad traits are many and varied, you or your crush must have this.

If during PDKT you can clearly catch the bad traits he shows, don’t ever think about changing his bad attitude. Because, all things related to the nature will be very difficult to change, unless the desire arises from oneself to change. In order for your PDKT to be safe, you should avoid this kind of thinking, OK? Especially to the point of trying hard to change his bad nature.

2. Don’t overshare your life

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It is undeniable that when we are comfortable with someone, we tend to be easier to share whatever we feel even we experience in everyday life. However, sharing this too often or what is known as oversharing it can actually harm you, you know.

Just share the things you want to give him, no need to share detailed info regarding your life. Just imagine, how dangerous it would be if your crush was classified as a toxic or possessive person.

It is not impossible that he will come to you or even do things that are out of control. To avoid this kind of thing from happening and your PDKT is safe, try not to oversharing your life, yeah!

3. Communicate the things you like and don’t like

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In this life you must have things you like and don’t like. Same with your crush. Therefore, to create a safe and comfortable relationship try to communicate this.

Tell him the things you like or don’t like. It doesn’t need to be too detailed, the important thing is that there is an effort to communicate. For example, you don’t like being lied to and like getting compliments. That’s all there is to it, there’s no need to go into a more specific direction.

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4. Set boundaries from the start

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Limitation or boundaries must be made from the start. You see, isn’t PDKT aimed at getting to know each other better? Why then even set limits? It’s not like that, my friend, I mean the limit here, for example, you have to get home before 9 pm.

So, if the two of you are going out together, he has to take you home before 9 o’clock. For example, again, you agreed to set a boundary that is not wanting to talk about your ex. Limits like this you decide for yourself, what can and cannot be done or discussed.

5. Believe in your little heart

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When someone has red flag or other bad things, sometimes our little hearts seem to talk and whisper that he is not the right person. Believe it or not, your little heart always tells the truth which is good and what is not for you.

When close to your crush, then your little heart says that you have to let him go, then let him go. I don’t mean to ask you to think using your heart, it’s just that one day you will be shown and know for yourself why your little heart is whispering like that. Always trust your guts, guys!

By recognizing red flag what he shows during PDKT, you will feel more secure during PDKT. Don’t let it be, yes, you are the origin in choosing a partner. Wellhope your PDKT goes well!

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