Be careful if when dating you are asked to obey all the words and requests of your partner. Because it is not proof of love, but a form of slavery in the name of love and relationship status.
Moreover, if the request is out of bounds, then you have no obligation to comply. Anyway, don’t want to be asked to do all kinds of things. Some examples can be seen in the following discussion. Strictly refuse to protect your dignity!
1. Borrowing money for his needs
illustration of holding money (pexels.com🤗/Mikhail Nilov)First, no matter how big your love for your partner is, don’t ever want to be asked to borrow money for him, okay? Especially if it’s to fulfill his needs, which is not your obligation as a girlfriend.
It’s okay to help meet your boyfriend’s needs, but that doesn’t mean you have to force yourself to borrow money from other people. Besides making it easier for him to manipulate you, your self-esteem is also lowered by complying with such a request.
2. Lying to others for his honor
illustration of talking partner (pexels.com/Ivan Samkov)Second, do not want to be asked to lie to others for the sake of his honor. Especially if he asks you to exaggerate in front of other people who are different from the reality.
Complying with such a request is tantamount to tarnishing your self-esteem by appearing embarrassing in the eyes of others. People feel sorry for you for making up about him in front of them so that your partner will be recognized by them. Shame, right?
3. Asked to have sex with him before marriage
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If your boyfriend asks to have sex with you even though he’s not married, don’t ever want to, okay? Such a request had gone too far. This reflects that he doesn’t appreciate you as the person he loves.
If he really cares for and respects you as someone of value, he wouldn’t dare ask for such a thing. So, don’t want to be enslaved by love and fulfill his requests just because you are dating. Take good care of yourself!
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4. Lower your dowry to make it easier for him to apply
illustration of applying (pexels.com/Andrea Piacquadio)Fourth, never want to be asked to lower the dowry by your partner. The dowry for a woman is the same as self-respect. His request is tantamount to asking you to lower your self-esteem so that he can easily propose.
People who really love you will never ask for your dowry to come down. He will actually push himself to be able to meet the standards and give a high dowry to propose to you. Because what is truly valuable deserves the best dowry in marriage.
5. Asked to pretend to be his friend in front of other people
shaking hands illustration (pexels.com/Pavel Danilyuk)Lastly, keep your self-respect not to indulge in pretending to be friends in front of other people. Whether it’s in front of family, friends, or even colleagues and work relations.
With him asking you to do that, it’s the same as him who doesn’t want to admit you as a girlfriend in front of other people. In addition, you also don’t want to be trampled on by his self-esteem by pretending to be his friend. It’s simple, if he doesn’t want to admit you then he’s not dating.
Anyway, if he asks you to do these five things, don’t just give up on him. You have to keep your self-respect and don’t want to be humiliated.
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